Growing up as a child and a teenager, I was friends with everyone. I didn’t set out to be popular, I just enjoyed being around people. I enjoyed meeting people and sharing stories but now I’m a little bit older, my circle has gotten smaller. A lot smaller.
I still have the warm welcoming heart that I had as a child, this is something that will never change, but as an adult my needs and wants in a friends have changed and if I’m honest, it’s hard to make friends with people who share the same values and interests as you. Especially when you’re in your mid 20s. I guess you just want to walk with people who are heading in the same direction as you.
You see, I left my home town of Nottingham when I was 18 and have lived in London ever since. In that time 6 years have passed. I have made some friends, grown a part from friends but a few have remained consistent. The ones who I grew up with and used to have sleepovers and nights out with. We still Whatsapp each other every hour of the day and see each other whenever there is a moment to spare. These friends are worth their weight in gold and although there isn’t many of them, I love them dearly and their hearts and smiles are big enough to make an empty room feel full.
More recently, I have made friends with a group of girls who I have met through social media. The bonds we have are pretty incredible and i’m surprised we didn’t meet sooner. Most of us met independently and like gravity we were pulled together. That’s fate, it does with you whatever it wants, you’ve just got to trust it.
As you get older, the need for drama becomes less and less. This is another reason why your circle gets smaller. Life is getting shorter and you no longer want to waste time bickering or talking about someone else’s bickering. Don’t feel like you need to change people, or change to fit in with people either. Life happens, change happens. Embrace it. It’s cliché, but the people who really care and matter the most are the ones who will be with you during your awkward teens, through the uncertain 20s, 30s and beyond. You might not meet them in your teens or 20s either, but that doesn’t matter, all that matters is that you’ve crossed paths and your stars are now aligned together.
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