My boyfriend and I have been together for four years and pretty much all of our family and friends are eagerly awaiting the announcement of our engagement. I am excited to become Mrs Tashi Skervin-Clarke (that sounds amazing, doesn’t it?) and the owner of a shiny (Boodles) diamond, but I don’t mind waiting to marry the man that I intend to spend the rest of my life with.
Getting to Know Each Other
Every time you reach a milestone in your relationship or experience a change in your life, the dynamics of your relationship change and you will learn new things about yourself and your partner.
You may think you know each other now, but wait until you go on your first trip away or move in to your first home together.
Life often throws curveballs at us, and you don’t really know how you and your partner will react to certain situations until one hits you.
I am still getting know my boyfriend. I was 18 when he walked in to my life and a lot has changed since then. We have both done a lot of growing up and for the first time in our relationship, I am no longer a student! I have become more finically independent and I have been able to afford to make life-changing decisions, such as upgrading our Sky package to include all of the sports channels. This was the first thing I did when I got a fulltime job!
Change is inevitable and it happens continually but I am enjoying taking the time to really get to know my partner and experience change with him.
Marriage Does Not Define Love
Marriage doesn’t suddenly equate to love and happiness, so don’t assume that a marriage is going to solve all of your relationship problems and give you and your partner a new found love.
Try not to compare your relationship to the ones that are around you because the love that you and your partner have is special in its own unique way. Cherish your love, move at your own pace and don’t let external parties force their views about your relationship upon you.
Love is a journey between two people and not a race between you and the other couples on your Facebook. It doesn’t matter if your friends are getting married after a year of being together and you remain unmarried seven years later. Anyone can put a ring on it and say ‘I do’, but only a special person can provide you with a love so deep, it leaves a handprint on your heart.
When I Get Married, I am Getting Married.
One of the biggest reasons why I don’t mind waiting to get married, and I say this without any shame, is because I want my wedding to everything I have ever imagined it to be. I want to have multiple Vera Wang dresses to wear on the day, Bird of Paradise flowers decorating the tables and a fountain of champagne for guests to drink from. I could be waiting a very long time for this to happen!
Weddings are expensive so if you can’t afford to have the weddings of your dreams, why not wait a little bit longer so you can save some more money? You already know that you are going to be together forever, so waiting a few more years isn’t going to cause any harm. Weddings are about that vows you make and not the dress the bride wears, but everyone deserves to have the wedding of their dreams no matter how big or small.
Remember that Love is a journey and I see marriage as one of the many exotic and wonderful destinations that my boyfriend and I will stop off at, during our life long journey together. But until then I am enjoying walking the pathway of love, hand in hand with my man.
Whether you and your partner get married tomorrow or in ten years from now, the only thing that will ever really matter is the love that you have in your hearts for each other.